Attachment

Our attachment styles develop when we are young. These patterns affect the way we relate in relationships during both easy and challenging moments. Experiential and practical exercises will help you know your own attachment style. You will find tools to support you to lean into relationships that are healthy as well as learn to ask for what you need and set appropriate boundaries. The capacity to lean into someone, to trust someone and let them trust you, is a great gift.

Our attachment styles develop when we are young. These patterns affect the way we relate in relationships during both easy and challenging moments. Experiential and practical exercises will help you know your own attachment style and find tools to support you to lean into relationships that are healthy as well as learn to ask for what you need and set appropriate boundaries. The capacity to lean into someone, to trust someone and let them trust you, is a great gift.

This is my greatest area of mental health training. I worked for five years in early childhood development with attachment specialists, have a graduate certificate in infant mental health, have been endorsed at two levels in infant mental health practice (Level II and Level III), and was an infant mental health therapist for three years. What this means is that I deeply understand and have seen how our experiences from in-utero onward shape our development and sense of self.

Lastly, while training in Somatic Experiencing®, I was introduced to the work of Dr. Diane Poole Heller.I have completed Modules I – IV of Dr. Heller’s Dynamic Attachment Re-patterning experience (DARe). DARe is an approach that focuses on helping individuals create more meaning, connection, and emotional intimacy in their relationships by processing early attachment wounds and identifying individual attachment styles.

Our attachment style begins to develop when we are very young children. Ideally, it is a secure attachment but often due to a variety of reasons it is insecure or even avoidant. This impacts adult relationships in ways that people are often unaware. If you need help understanding yourself in your personal relationships, Jeannette York can help.

Our early experiences with attachment and bonding shape the way we relate to others throughout our lives. If you're struggling with attachment issues, such as fear of abandonment, difficulty trusting others, or feeling disconnected from yourself or others, my approach could be well suited to working on these issues. I offer therapy that focuses on understanding and healing attachment wounds, which is correlated with healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

We all have attachments and all have attachment wounds. It is my experience that these inform and impact how we show up for ourselves and within relationships with friends, romantic partners, and family. I use my training and experience to bring these attachment patterns and wounds into the therapy experience to help clients increase awareness and understanding, as well as working towards healing these patterns and wounds.

Attachment to our caregivers, which begins to develop in our very first months of life, continues to shape who we become and how we make decisions for the rest of our lives. If our needs weren't properly met in our first experiences in childhood, it often leads to difficulty feeling emotionally safe in future relationships to friends, family, loved ones, peers, and even strangers. Our attachment styles can even influence our values, purpose in life, and other major life decisions.

Attachment can affect how we show up in our relationships and how relationships effect our wellbeing. We will redefine some shattered roles so that you can reimagine your relationships as whole.

A very common question to ask a therapist when they are interviewed is "What is your theoretical lens or orientation." My answer always comes easily; "I am an Attachment-Focused Therapist." For me, that means that the health of the relationships that are closest and most dear to a client directly correlates to their mental health. I have received extensive training in using Attachment-Focused Therapy and in understanding the neurobiological components related to relational conflict.

How we attach to others has to do with who we are attaching to, how we see ourselves and what connection has looked like in the past. We often what to ascribe responsibility to someone for the level of discomfort and hurt that comes as a result of attachment challenges but the work of therapy is to shift from blaming or shaming to a place of care, curiosity and emotional security. Regardless of what causes the attachment wound, each situation is an opportunity for a correct experience.

Your family of origin forms the basis of how you engage and attach to others as adults. It's key to understanding how engage with others in the present. The type of caregiver you had—attentive, insensitive, or inconsistent—influences your ability to connect with your partner. The great news: YOU CAN CHANGE! We identify your relational dance and move on to help you grown into each other safely and happily by replacing negative feedback loops with positive feedback loops.

I believe that attachment is the foundation for all relationships. I help my clients to understand their attachment style and how this may be preventing them from developing healthy relationships and ultimately living the life that they want.

I have training in attachment theory and utilize these concepts with individuals, families, and couples. My approach is to educate clients on various attachment styles and help them heal their own attachment wounds while learning to communicate and interact with others more effectively.

I have studied and utilized attachment based theory in my practice. Since the foundation of our core is rooted in childhood, returning to a new understanding during this time period can help us confront the attachment issues we experience in adulthood. Attachment theory can help us understand ourselves in a deeper way. Many of us have grown up in a dysfunctional family unit and may not be aware of how the significance of these experiences impact our emotional health and well-being.