Family Conflict

Who we are is shaped by being part of a system: a society, a culture, and a family. Families fall into patterns that work for a while, but as every family faces change - aging, transitioning from one life stage to another, facing tragedy, or just dealing with the things that life throws at us - we all could use help with making that transition, creating a family structure that works for YOUR situation, YOUR unique family. I am looking forward to helping you with that.

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I believe we are hardwired to seek affirming and intimate bonds with others. Conflict with parents, partners, children, siblings, and extended family can cause significant stress and unhappiness. I can assist in developing communication skills, healthy boundaries, conflict resolution techniques, and relationship scripts. The goal is to establish relationships with others that are fulfilling and allow for personal growth.

Families are marked by periods of transition and change, which are often painful, intense, and have the potential to crack the foundation of solid relational grounding and connection. I collaborate with families to explore new meanings and make sense of challenges, to better hear and understand one another's perspectives, and to discover ways to move forward despite their shared problems. I lean heavily on systemic family therapy models to help families move toward growth and resiliency.

Family relationships often emerge as topics in sessions. I use trauma informed care to guide clients toward better understanding patterns in family relationships and how intergenerational trauma may impact family functioning overall.

There are no perfect families. Sometimes old issues that seem like they should have been resolved, come back again and again. Whether it is between adult siblings or adult children and a parent, Jeannette York can help. Give her a call to set up an appointment today.

Inner child work may help those experiencing interpersonal conflict. Inner child work helps explore unprocessed childhood emotions and feelings that currently impact one’s life and understanding, managing, and/or reducing triggers. One desire for inner child work may be to identify wounded areas and/or unmet needs of the child, learn to advocate, protect, or show compassion for the child, create a safe enough space to invite the child to play, and integrate the child with the adult self.

My course of graduate study emphasized family systems. I then put this study to work with families and relationships who were experiencing distress. I have experience in a therapeutic capacity and in the capacity of a crisis worker reuniting families in lockout or runaway situations, meaning either the child has run away from home or the family has refused to allow the child to return. Having had experience in high-stress situations, I am comfortable working with any level of conflict.

Making decisions about caring for an older parent, sibling, or other family member can be loaded with emotion and challenge. I love being a part of facilitating these hard (and necessary) conversations between family members. Whether it's focused on a move to residential care, or end-of-life decisions, I bring a calm, organized, gentle nudging presence to these conversations.

My training and experience are rooted in relational conflict resolution. I am comfortable with the whole family in the room, or with individuals needing support through asserting different boundaries with family. The theoretical perspectives that influence my work most are Structural Family Therapy, Bowenian Family Therapy, and Emotionally-Focused Therapy.

Families are complicated, and you deserve a space to process and sort out your thoughts and feelings. I help clients process emotions about family, set better boundaries, improve communication, strengthen coping strategies, and gain perspective.

Life can become increasingly more difficult when the home becomes a hell. Family therapy can help untangle miscommunication issues, unhealthy boundaries, and overall dysfunction. I work with families with adult children navigate

Family of origin pain can feel like the deepest wound, chosen family conflict can feel like a never-ending complexity. I work with families to strengthen connection, communication, and build shared values and understanding.

Family conflict to me is all about a few main themes: communication, most of all, and HOW we communicate with each other and have been communicated with; how families are the first production or play we learn in life, to use theatre language, and how the values, priorities, caring, we do (or do not) learn then are crucial to how we see things later in life; how families are frequently the last people to see or accept change and growth and relate to that change and growth.

Are you struggling to be seen or heard in your family? Do you wish you had more positive ways of interacting with your loved ones? Would you like to find new strategies for parenting your child or connecting with your teen? My work with families centers around reducing conflict and deepening connections throughout the family system by helping increase family members' capacities to communicate wants, needs, and feelings and helping create a family culture of openness and respect.

Conflict happens when people who love each other miscommunicate. Couples and family therapy can help you strengthen your relationship by understanding conflict patterns and learning new skills.

You can strengthen your family ties by understanding conflict patterns and how to deal with them successfully. Often there are definite patterns that happen over and over. Once we have a good understanding of these sequences, we can figure out how to change them. Sometimes a pattern happening today is related to past traumas, which can be faced and overcome. Ultimately you will find yourself giving and receiving the love you always wanted in your life.

We all struggle in our families to one degree or another. When this feels overwhelming it may be time to change our approach. Together we can create new strategies for navigating complex relationships with our relatives both chosen and biological.